Writer's Block: Unfriended, Unspecified!

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Yeah, I've had it happen. Usually it's because we don't talk anymore, or because they friended me and I never added them back. I don't think I've ever had an LJ friend with whom I'm in constant contact unfriend me. If that happened, I'd probably send them a PM to ask about it if it was rather sudden.

As for me, I defriend folks who I haven't spoken to, or else I never add people who randomly friend me. I've got a few unlocked posts, so I like it if people at least leave a message and say "Hey, I've friended you, is that cool?" In the past, my journal was unlocked, but I had some crazy drama that was so absolutely pointless that I just locked everything.

I've also defriended people because I wasn't interested in their journal anymore. I strive to be more than just a fandom friend, because I change fandoms every other second (or I leave fandom completely from time to time), and chances are we won't be in the same fandom for more than six months. Thus, all the friends I have are interesting outside of fandom as well. or people I've met in real life. Unless we were really close or spoke often, I don't feel like I owe people an explanation for why I unfriend them. Either I lost interest or we never spoke to each other. Isn't that the same thing that happens with real life relationships? You stop talking to a person and they fade into the background of a past friend.

Comments

[kastra.livejournal.com]

I wish LJ had a better way to organize friends. Sometimes i look at my friends list and I can't figure out why a person is even there. Do they knit? Write stuff? With the weird names, do I know this person in real life and I have forgotten? (Yes this has happened to me). I would love to see sub lists for friends. LJ does mention something about colors when adding friends, can you color code people? Wow this just go random and off topic a bit. Please don't unfriend me. I am mostly harmless. :)

[hitome-bore.livejournal.com]

Totally agree with your sentiments here <3 Friends should always transcend fandoms, and I'd rather keep them around even if they're just slightly off center or in the background, because who knows when you'll find yourselves coming back together? At least then you'll already know that the person is awesome and great for fangirling with when you find yourselves in the same fandom boat again, and it sure saves time when it comes to finding people to chat with and discuss fic about :D

Oh so hey, how did the knitting foray go??