Writer's Block: Unfriended, Unspecified!

[reppu]

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Yeah, I've had it happen. Usually it's because we don't talk anymore, or because they friended me and I never added them back. I don't think I've ever had an LJ friend with whom I'm in constant contact unfriend me. If that happened, I'd probably send them a PM to ask about it if it was rather sudden.

As for me, I defriend folks who I haven't spoken to, or else I never add people who randomly friend me. I've got a few unlocked posts, so I like it if people at least leave a message and say "Hey, I've friended you, is that cool?" In the past, my journal was unlocked, but I had some crazy drama that was so absolutely pointless that I just locked everything.

I've also defriended people because I wasn't interested in their journal anymore. I strive to be more than just a fandom friend, because I change fandoms every other second (or I leave fandom completely from time to time), and chances are we won't be in the same fandom for more than six months. Thus, all the friends I have are interesting outside of fandom as well. or people I've met in real life. Unless we were really close or spoke often, I don't feel like I owe people an explanation for why I unfriend them. Either I lost interest or we never spoke to each other. Isn't that the same thing that happens with real life relationships? You stop talking to a person and they fade into the background of a past friend.

Comments

[kastra.livejournal.com]

I wish LJ had a better way to organize friends. Sometimes i look at my friends list and I can't figure out why a person is even there. Do they knit? Write stuff? With the weird names, do I know this person in real life and I have forgotten? (Yes this has happened to me). I would love to see sub lists for friends. LJ does mention something about colors when adding friends, can you color code people? Wow this just go random and off topic a bit. Please don't unfriend me. I am mostly harmless. :)

[reppu.livejournal.com]

I tried the color-coding thing once, and then I forgot what the color's stood for. So yeah, now I just friend people I've met, or people who let me know they're friending me. Then I can ask them why or something (unless it's obvious, like we've had threads of talk on other common-interest comms). I hope you figure something out, but your indecision means you are DEFRIENDED!

And I've seen your collection of knitting needles, you are certainly not harmless. :D

[kastra.livejournal.com]

fear me and my pointy sticks! No batteries or ammo required!

[februaryfour]

Now you have the "notes" thing... ^_^

[reppu.livejournal.com]

I don't think I've added any friends since that "Notes" thing came out, so I'm not familiar with it at all. Can you use it and go back to your older friends and "note" them? Not that I would, because that's too much trouble, but it would be nice to know if I could.

LJ introduces some new stuff that I don't even understand. I tried to look at the "My Stats" page and got confused. @__@

[februaryfour]

Yes, you can. ^_^ Just add notes to people to say things like "X's boyfriend" or "met in FFN" or whatever.

[hitome-bore.livejournal.com]

Totally agree with your sentiments here <3 Friends should always transcend fandoms, and I'd rather keep them around even if they're just slightly off center or in the background, because who knows when you'll find yourselves coming back together? At least then you'll already know that the person is awesome and great for fangirling with when you find yourselves in the same fandom boat again, and it sure saves time when it comes to finding people to chat with and discuss fic about :D

Oh so hey, how did the knitting foray go??

[reppu.livejournal.com]

I've got one friend *coughciennacough* who gets me into all her fandoms so she'll have someone to fangirl with, but other than her, most of my friends are in separate fandoms. And I'm totally cool with that, because my journal isn't really about fandom anyway. It's about my totally wacky life, and fandom only plays a tiny part in that. I didn't realize how much LJ revolved around fandom when I first signed up for it, but I certainly don't mind it.

As for the knitting, I started it, and then had to take it apart because I kinda messed up (how did I even twist that hat?! IDK). And by the time I made progress on it again, the baby doubled in her size. So...yeah, I think I'll just make her a scarf, because she can use that for a while! :D

[hitome-bore.livejournal.com]

Oo, isn't cienna also into Merlin? I think I recall hearing from Jamie that she saw once upon a time that she'd gotten into watching Merlin during season one. If that's the case, you totally need to come on board with us and join in on the fun :DD

And ditto on the fandom and LJ. I love that I get a bit of everything with my friend's list, people's real lives, funny stories, fandoms I'm not in but are still fun to read about, and of course all the daily stuff going on in the comm's I'm interested in at the moment. I'd rather get a wide breadth of experiences than only utilize my LJ for one specific thing *nods*

You really need to start posting pictures of your work! I'm so alone on my flist and being the only knitter (that I know of). Scarves are great for being universal, and so are blankets, which never go out of style, so there's a thought if you wanted to go in that direction :)

[reppu.livejournal.com]

I really wanna learn how to do a blanket. I'm still a beginner, so I'm not that confident about the projects I've done. But a baby blanket is small, so I could do that with some big needles. I'd have to find a REALLY simple pattern; back when I was in Japan, I had friends who could show me more complicated techniques, or help me out when I made a mistake, but I've got no knitting friends here, and I'm only really comfortable with knitting and purling.

I'm too lazy to watch Merlin. The further I get behind on a series, the more I think, "Guh, now I have more to catch up on." cienna is into Merlin, and when we lived in Japan together, she'd force shows on me (as in, when I stayed with her, she'd come into my sleeping area with a computer and a playlist). Yeah, I'm a sad, lazy fan. ^^;;

[kastra.livejournal.com]

silly, all knitting consists of is knitting and purling. :P We just figure out ways to lose and gain stitches on purpose and magically clothing appears!

[hitome-bore.livejournal.com]

Lmao. How did I not even realize that?? *cracks up*